Sunday, August 10, 2008

A friend in need

My editor picked a beautiful Arabic proverb for an article that says, “A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breadth of kindness blow the rest away.”
Reading this made me long for a friend…
My friend-list is limited to my daughter’s friend’s mother or my husband’s friend’s wife…
Well, I do have friends in office… But I am constantly on guard here, where you just can’t let your heart rule over the head and pour the contents out, be it chaff or grain, for there might be someone, who would take offence …
And it is not because I haven’t tried. I had a close friend from REC, with whom I could converse with for hours…but we have lost touch. For years, I tried to find her, a number, an email but all efforts went fruitless and now I just don’t look. And there is another friend and we are trying to go back in time, to be the friends we were then…
Marriage has that effect; it makes everything around look unimportant. I didn’t want anything else but the comfort of companionship that comes with marriage which later and inevitably went on to the role of a mother…
And that is a one role every woman cherishes, that of a mother. The happiness of seeing a part of you in flesh and blood, the innocence, the dependency, the complete trust that you see in the eyes of your child, is all consuming. It obliterates everything else. Who remembers friends, relatives or other duties then?
Well, we all pass through these phases, but it the clever ones who maintains all these the different facets -- the ever encompassing role of a mother, a wife, a friend, a companion, separate each entity from the other, yet bind them together to form the character, that is you…
No, I don’t regret living each of my roles, a little more profoundly than necessary but I surely miss my friends of college… and I vow to hunt them down …

5 comments:

Vini said...

hi sindhu ....wow ....from where did those beautiful thoughts come from ? you should seriously start writing.

...But now spice up yr blog ....we want to read something about KK ! ...sharpen yr claws pleazzze.

sindhu said...

thanks vini, it should come naturally, waiting for those thoughts...I am waiting for a fight or disagreement, to initiate that...

Sapna Anu B.George said...

… and I vow to hunt them down ….............that will never be possible unless you really threaten them with 'guns to their heads' you should leave the channels open for others to communicate too,like open your Orkut,communicate with emails' which is in order....at least in my case,sent me an email and phone no to sapnaanubgeorge@gmail.com please.This is not to pester you with 'friendship'.Just for old time sake...i had no other option to communicate with you.

kavya said...

hi mummy ,i am kavya .i lov u
bye bye bye

Rani said...

Sindu ... Its never tooo late!GO for it!
But you know what? when you finally find them you realise that we have changed so much. I am in touch with most of my closest friends thru school and college ... but though we are all as close as before, we frequently question ourselves whether we would have hit it off if we had met recently!! It takes double effort ... but I tell you it`s worth it!!!!!!!!!!!!!